Couples With Children With ADHD At Risk Of Higher Divorce Rates, Shorter Marriages

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2008/10/081021185207.htm

Other factors associated with divorce in couples with a child with ADHD included antisocial behavior in the father; a maternal and paternal history of divorce; parent substance abuse; and depression in the mother.

Of the characteristics that may contribute to risk of divorce, a father's antisocial behavior proved to be the largest factor. The rate of divorce also increased when mothers had substantially less education than fathers; children were diagnosed with ADHD at a younger age; families had racial or ethnic minority children and children had serious ODD or CD behavior problems. "With these findings in mind," Wymbs and Pelham said, "those who treat children with ADHD and disruptive behavior problems should take note if parents are having marriage problems and try to intervene to prevent the children from going through the trauma of divorce."

This is about the myths related to divorce and autism and ADHD etc, all the studies:
http://www.autism-pdd.net/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31931

And I didn't know there were support groups for spouses of partners with Asperger's:
 http://www.aspia.org.au/pdf/AS_Marriage_brochure.pdf
Well, THIS explains a LOT!  But it also just validates things I've experienced, and makes quite real the things I had been hoping were just my imagination or were under his control or not as bad as I thought.  Now it's just so damn scary!  Unfortunately, this particular support group is in Australia?  They seem to think everyone in the world knows their abbreviations for their states there too.